Hi! My Name is Tynan...

I'm an egomaniac vegan pickup artist who sold everything and is traveling around the world. I generally do whatever I want whenever I want, even when I'm pretty sure it's a bad idea. I like singing gangsta rap, writing, working out, working on my business, traveling, and finding adventure. I always wear a sequinned hat with stars on it.

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Better than Your Boyfriend is about self improvement. I'm talking about getting off the beaten path, forging your own interesting life, and living outside the box. Doing what you dream of doing. Relentless pursuit of excellence. No filler, rehashed ideas, or feel-goodery that doesn't bring results.

You Are What You Practice

I was sitting around this weekend thinking about practice. I had just read an article that said that to get good at something one had to spend ten years practicing. Studies show that practicing is the one strong predictor of success in nearly any field.

Then I thought, “what am I practicing?”. I’m practicing eating healthy. That’s good. I’m practicing rapping. Good too. After a nice long pat on the back I thought of a more important question. What am I not practicing?

I realized that every time I practice a bad habit, I’m enforcing it and making it harder to break. I guess that’s obvious, but for some reason it hit me like a ton of bricks. I see myself, down the road, being someone who keeps his living space really clean, pays bills as soon as they come in, gets ready fast in the morning, and doesn’t procrastinate. Every day I continue to not do those things I’m making it harder to start doing them.

And what about this mystical 10 years? I’m sure that’s accurate for things like sports, being experts on topics, ninja fighting, etc., but some things don’t need to take that long. When people talk about personal development they talk about slow and gradual change. Why? I can be a proactive tidy person for one day - anyone can. And if I do something one day, I can do it the next day too. It’s like when I started eating healthy, or when I went vegan. I just changed my beliefs on the matter, and that changed my actions.

In a second my beliefs changed to be repulsed by my previous behavior. Having a messy house wasn’t about having a messy house - it was about clinging to old habits that detract from my life.

I got up, and did 6 loads of laundry - enough to wash every article of clothing I have. I cleaned up the boxes of stuff that I brought over when I moved in. I did all the dishes and scrubbed the sink. I went into my bathroom and scrubbed the counter and sink. I (with the assistance of the lovely Evan) hung some prints I had bought three years ago. I vacuumed everywhere, including the floor of the closet. I went through my computer and deleted old files, combined iterations of backups, and uploaded 4gb of important files to my online backup.

The weird part is that I was enjoying it. Every load of laundry made me happier. Organizing my closet made me feel good. Getting on the computer didn’t appeal to me - I wanted to do all these things that I normally hated doing.

My new approach is to instantly develop new practices. When you decide that it’s ok for a change to take years it WILL take years, or it may never get done at all. It becomes too easy to put it off. When you institute a new practice and demand that you stick to it from day one you feel empowered, excited, and immediately accountable. Try it!

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14 Responses to “You Are What You Practice”

  1. David Says:

    Awesome… This Blog entry really inspired me to start practicing things I hate doing. The thing is I have to actually get motivated to just go ahead and do it. I will start when I wake up in the morning!

    Thanks keep blogging!

  2. Geek Load Says:

    I found a really great motivator, the 50 minute productivity game

  3. Chipware Says:

    You’re practicing a combination of state change and NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) both concepts that I learned in a Tony Robbins book named “Awaken the Giant Within”. I’ve had great success with both concepts and I wish more people utilized them.

  4. Evan Says:

    Why don’t I get a congratulatory blog post everytime I clean your kitchen and do the laundry? ; )

  5. Murphy Says:

    If you had a link to the article on practice that would be great

  6. Ace Says:

    Wow, Tynan. I almost did not read this post.
    Thanks, man. Well said. I’d type more, but I gotta get shit done. ;)

    Peace

    ACE

  7. Administrator Says:

    It’s awesome to hear that you guys are trying this out too. Please keep me updated with your progress. Sometimes I feel like I should start a forum so that we can all do this stuff together.

    Tynan

  8. Tim Says:

    A forum would a great idea.

    And I cleaned my room because of you, Tynan.

  9. David Says:

    I actually tried it out.. Got some stuff done that I Probably wouldn’t have else wise…

  10. ladytea Says:

    Yes, a forum is a really good idea

  11. Ebony Says:

    I’d also love a forum! I’m eating healthy today because of you Tynan. It’s Halloween and I was planning on eating all sorts of sweets, but I realized (even though it’s just one day out of the year) I’d still be happier with myself if I kept on my diet instead.

  12. Gruntwilligar Says:

    If this practice thing realy works then I’m going to practice making babies with my girlfriend more! In 10 years we can probably make 10 to 12 babies. This is gonna be FUN!!!

  13. Motown Says:

    I think this is called “flow”…it is some sort of emotional state whereby you are so immersed in a task that it becomes pleasurable, even liberating.

  14. kaspian Says:

    Awesome post. I did a bunch of cleaning this morning before finding your blog. I have recently been re-examining why I like being a polyphasic sleeper and what I want to do with all the extra time. Thanks for getting me thinking about what I *want* to be practicing!

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